Originally Posted by Mewcario
I've looked all throughout Edit Options and the whole list of CP functions, and nowhere can I find anythign that allows me to recieve PMs from non-friended members, and I never recieve any notifications when people leave VMs in the visitor box of my profile.
The default should be that you can receive PMs from anyone (if there even is a way to change it, which I don't think there is)
The notifications depend on what skin you use. So far, only BlueCommune works, iirc, so you just have to make it a habit to check your profile regularly if you don't use BlueCommune.